tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7274640673153000107.post263041143888098397..comments2023-07-05T08:24:26.718-07:00Comments on Smells Like Nothing: Part Four: GuestsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7274640673153000107.post-25902559674145055192010-01-03T18:05:16.933-08:002010-01-03T18:05:16.933-08:00W.H.A.T?W.H.A.T?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7274640673153000107.post-72092068955556062532010-01-02T11:40:02.142-08:002010-01-02T11:40:02.142-08:00Again, I am unfamiliar with this kind of thing. Th...Again, I am unfamiliar with this kind of thing. Though I have on occasion been THRILLED when I had to turn down an invite due to a prior commitment because, "I just don't want to go to your wedding, I think the two of you getting married is a really bad idea and that's why I'm not coming," isn't quite the thing. Being able to <em>truthfully</em> say, "Dammit, I have to work/have another obligation/will be out of the country" is a huge relief sometimes. <br /><br />And I can't even BEGIN to comprehend the "it's okay to take other people to someone else's party" attitude. I mean, I can see replying to a host, "I would love to attend, but I have company that weekend." That then allows the host to either say, "Well bring them along!" or, "I hope you enjoy their visit, we'll miss you, maybe next time?" In either case, the key is assuming that your guests/friends/children are <i>your</i> responsibilites/loved ones, and that no one else is obligated to entertain/like them. And then not getting your knickers in a twist if it someone doesn't want them there. Hosts get to say who comes into their homes and who doesn't. <br /><br />Really, the whole secret of being a good guest at these things is recognizing that there are other people in the world who might have different needs/interests/preferences from yours, and that your host gets your full consideration.Sallyacioushttp://www.sallyacious.comnoreply@blogger.com